I'm so lost, y'all. Please help me.

Things aren't always immediately clear like the first example you gave. It does not even have to be "true abuse" in order to realize it's not a healthy relationship that adds positively to your life and be done. regarding your side note: Yes, he has personal problems. Everyone has personal problems, and yet not everyone treats their SO that way. He's already had a chance to grow, and you don't have to wait for someone to grow in order to split up. His growth is entirely his own responsibility.

You can also plan for a split in advance and figure out what you need to do in order to be able to afford your immediate needs, then start implementing that.

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