My boyfriend is bisexual. He's manly as hell - he's in the military, hairy, and built like a brick shithouse. He also cries over just about anything sappy, can dress me better than I dress myself (his fashion sense is so on point), can hold a conversation about make up, and watches my little pony with me. What I'm trying to say is that he has masculine and feminine traits, and I love both sides of him equally. My girl friends are jealous over his makeup knowledge, and asked me before if he "came like that" or if I had to "train him". I've never once attributed these things to his sexuality. Why? Because the fact that he's bisexual has fuck all to do with his personality, hobbies, and interests. I feel like you have a very skewed idea of what bisexual men, straight men, and gay men are supposed to act like. Not all gay men are feminine and not all straight men are masculine. You shouldn't feel ashamed of who you are and you shouldn't wish to change yourself because of it either.

With that being said, one night my boyfriend came to me and asked me if I thought he was manly enough. He was so, so sad and just looked so.. ashamed. He was scared that I wouldn't find him manly enough and would leave him. I'm not sure what set it off but it was fucking heartbreaking.. even as a bisexual woman I can't imagine how you feel as a man because I've never been torn between masculinity and femininity. All I can say is that it makes me sad to hear how ashamed you are and I wish I could reassure you, and hope that one day you don't feel like this anymore.

Just don't change who you are based on what you think you should be or how you think you should act. You aren't two dimensional.