This something i don't understand how she let's her Family have so much control over her at 39 She's been married and has two children you would think at that age she would have more independance in her life.I think it's a case of Her not wanting the responsibility of looking after herself.

I'm unsure about the drinking from my own personal experiance with friends and family it's always better to cut down and not just stop.

The hospitalization thing is strange it always ends up them saying She's fine and theres no reason for her to be in hospital.

I honestly don't think any kind of relationship not involving Her drinking would work i to her family are the bad guy in this and to be fair i am to some extent.I get that 100% i do.