His mom is similar to Josh's mom too. She literally spoils him and I with food and will clean up for him and do everything for when he lived with her. Thankfully, he's pretty self sufficient, and doesn't rely on her and does his own chores now that he lives with me.

Does your bf's mom call him or text him alot? Or does she only cross boundaries physically?She really shouldn't be joking about showering with him. That is a huge red flag and I would bring it up to him. Good luck! I wish I had your courage to talk to my bf about this lol but it's hard for me because he loves her and speaks so highly of her. It's hard for me to criticize her because I strongly believe that although she raised him without much boundaries, she taught him well in how to treat women. He treats me like a queen!