The thing is, that is how things are, but that doesn't make them fake. Consciousness is an odd aberration of biological function, and there's something extra and odder about human consciousness, but that doesn't make it any less real or important.
Love and desire, hate and anger, whatever broad romantically emotional words you can use to describe any mental state you're in really are just chemical reactions, but that's all that life is. Various chemical reactions with the single, unified goal of continuing to function. Your consciousness is just there to interpret those reactions into a livable interface. Love will never be anything but a chemical reaction, but it is still a meaningful tool that tells you so much more about the person you're feeling it towards. The idea of love isn't the end-all-be-all, but when you feel that towards someone it's letting you know that you feel it down the nuclei of your cells that this is someone important to you, they make you feel safe, they are valuable to your being.
... Honestly though, I barely know what the fuck I'm talking about, and I've rambled enough and deleted enough that I'm not even sure of everything I've said, lol. I actually feel similarly to you(I believe) a lot of the time. Most of the time, actually. I'm at home right now instead of at work because I was feeling like a mindless drone, stuck as a cog in the machine of society, with no soul or purpose or future or self, so I went home early and got some tacos and beer. I actually think there are a lot of us that feel this way, disillusioned with society, but it's so ingrained in our selves and the world that it's impossible to break free from. Instead we're stuck viewing our place in it as if from a third person perspective (part of what I deleted was on the difference between our physical selves and our conscious selves).
What I am trying to do is find a way to be content with my current place in the world, while at the same time keeping an eye out for a place more in line with my true self. I'm sorry Cypher, but you can't take the blue pill.