I'm obsessed with my boyfriend's ex girlfriend

I had split from my husband for about eight months. During this time I dated a man, he moved in with me and proposed and I was not even divorced yet, only legally separated. He was very obsessed with my husband too. He even drove by his job sites sometimes, his mother's house where he lived and stalked him on social media, which my husband barely used. I caught him even consciously wearing one of my husband's t-shirts that he left when he moved out. He was worried because he said that we always seemed so happy (he knew us because we all lived in the same neighborhood for years). After talking with him, I discovered that he was very insecure in our relationship. He did not think he could measure up to my husband and he felt that there were traits about my husband that would make him seem less attractive to me. He felt I was settling for him just so I was not alone. In reality though, he was right. I wasn't ready to be in another serious relationship and he kind of forced my arm by suddenly becoming homeless and needing a place to stay for a few weeks until his house was ready to move into. He never moved into it and kept coming up with one excuse after another. I think his obsession with my husband was that he could feel that our relationship could not measure up to mine and my husband's and that we would never have the same connections. He was right but not because we could not of made our own connections that were different but just as unique and special as mine and my husband's. His obsession ruined our relationship because he spent too much time thinking about him instead of spending the energy to make himself more secure and on our relationship.

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