If my husband felt that way, I would want him to talk to me about it right away. We are both on the fence, but are in a similar position in that neither of us will be well established in our careers for some time as he wants to pursue a PhD and I am currently studying for the bar exam.

If it works out, and we are in a financial position where we can have children while I am still young enough that my eggs are healthy, or we are able to adopt (an infant, I don't care about race as long as it is young enough to not have any of the terrifying issues I have watched a friend's parents struggle with with their older adoption), then we will probably have kids.

I have been honest with him from the beginning that I am on the fence. We both had stay at home mothers and both consider it important that one parent take a very active role in the children's lives. Because of that, I made it clear to him from the beginning that I wouldn't be willing to sacrifice my career in that way. We are at least three years away from even beginning to think about having kids (one of my requirements is that I need to get serious and loose weight before I am willing to consider pregnancy for health reasons, and I know that will take some time), but we already have a game plan.

A coworker and friend of mine is pregnant, and she told me the other day that "Mommies" were creepy and she didn't really like babies, but really enjoyed children. She is a hard working, very talented attorney, and my role model in many ways. I can guarantee that she won't lose her identity because of a child. Another female attorney in the firm has two children and she has worked very hard in her career and is frequently going on exciting vacations.

I think you should talk to her, and see what her thoughts are. I don't want to bingo you on /r/childfree, because that is just cruel, but you initially were okay with it because of her, it's possible that you may change your mind again and be able to come up with a plan that works for you two.