I'm prone to anxiety but want to try cannabis again. Benzo before, during or never?

i didn't get any type of anxiety or paranoia from it until i got caught two years ago as a kid(13). it traumatized me a bit and i decided to take a year off and then see where it went. when i started again (14) i had a little bit of anxiety the first few times but eventaully that went away. that led me to become cocky on when i could get high, but before i wouldve been caught a pretty stupid event happend. i was standing in the alley behing my house with 2 other friends just hanging out, not even smoking, we were all sober as a duck. this is also in part of my city thats about 95% upper middle to upper class families, so it wasn't a sketchy scene at all. a lady walking by the crossing street with her dog and stops stares at us, i said hi or some sort of casual greeting and we waved. she took like 2 steps closer and still stood there looking at us. it was pretty creepy so we just get up and walk the other way. she starts following us and we speed walk now, she speeds up more. my friends and i were just like wtf is this lady doing? we are running now as is she, she says something along the lines of "come back here i know you're going drugs!!!" she stops running and we leave the alley and go on my street oppsite side of where my house is. we start walking to my house and we were confused about what had happened but still laughing because it was so wierd. we rendezvous with the lady while my moms friend was driving into my driveway. very awkward so i tell my friends to go inside my room or something so i can see whats up. so i walk up to my moms friend and wierd alley lady and she said "did you know your kids were doing drugs and probably other gang related crimes in the alley?" moms friend said "i dont believe so" or something similar, and looked at me to see if i looked high, smelled m shirt etc. i was obviously not high. ditch lady asks to speak to my mother and her friend told her that she was at work and her names jane doe, the lady goes "ooooooohhhhh jane doeeeeeeee i know her she worked with me at the insert psychiatric therapist social work etc type job. ill just email her what you did, so i said whatever i didn't actually do anything or something like that. my mom got the email about us being drug dealing, ganster, delinquent blah blah blah. my mom said she thinks the lady is exxaggerating but believes the smoking pot part. she said she was going to drug test me for a while i fessed up and said that i had smoked a few weeks ago and about a month later i got tested, passed, another month later a test, passed. i didnt smoke very much when i was getting tested, just a few weekends where i smoked a lot. no more tests so i started smoking a bit again, 4 or 5 months after that i got way too high after a t break and went into my house, she instantly knew. no drug test came from that even though she said she would. she started blaming everything i do bad on marijuana, so i always got accused for a while.after a two month break i started smoking about once a month, always from home, and everytime i would get super paranoid that my mom was going to drug test me since she had been accussing so many random things that arent weed related on weed. after a few months of that i stopped for a few months just because i felt like it and started again. i would smoke very small amounts, increasing a little every few times. also making sure i would have no chance of contact with my mom when im high, because i hate trying to play it off. im high on ambien so i dont really know what this wall of text is like but just start with very small amounts, increasing whenever you feel comfortable doing so. tl:dr ambein

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