I’m afraid of that too. But there is a line. In any time that should be considered “free time” (like when he’s not working) it’s okay to message him and require time with him (besides needed sleep and rest). So if you want to text or talk, don’t feel bad about it, like bothering him is a bad thing. But also don’t feel like you have a right to talk all the time or “whenever”. Work hours are times you can text but don’t expect immediate responses. But don’t get upset when you don’t get an immediate response in “free time”.

As your relationship grows the more and more you can text and call and be needy but it is his decision how far this goes. You can try the clingy thing or the simple messaging and see how attentive he is. Don’t worry about not getting responses quickly when starting out. Later on in the relationship when you get closer the gap will get smaller and smaller.

The only time that you should be upset about him getting back to you is when you have a bad day. In bad day situations if you need a talk or a chat and you text about it, see how he responds. Is he attentive and caring, or is he dismissive and distant. Because if his first response is to be dismissive of your situation or not immediately get back to you when he is free then I’m sure that’s not the person for you, because of your DDLG situation. (Although other types of relationships should take note not to let this go either). But it’s not ever good to stick around with a guy who doesn’t listen to you when your upset or rather is dismissive of it. Because that should always be your top priority.

Otherwise you should talk when the mood strikes you but don’t worry about clingy-ness. Inherently, most people aren’t ever that clingy. So as long as you keep yourself in check you should be fine and the closer you get the more comfortable you’ll feel with texting and talking more and more and it won’t seem like clingy-ness.

Don’t worry about being clingy unless you think you are (to a point where you can think you can tell he’s getting annoyed). If that happens talk to him about it and if he says you are then the first thing you should do is not get upset and take two steps back. Lighten up on talking.

But most Daddies or Care givers (with littles that aren’t texting and whining and complaining 75% of the day) LOVE to hear about their littles day and LOVE to talk and communicate. If you have one that hates the way you communicate and seems really bothered and annoyed almost any time you speak to him is not a proper Daddy or Care Giver and not someone who is worth your time because in the end all you’ll be is just upset and broken on the inside.