Oh no sweetheart I am so sorry that you are going through this. You need to know that absolutely NONE of this is your fault in any way shape or form. You have been abused and controlled since you were barely a child yourself and do not deserve to be treated like this.

I know it’s easier said than done, but you need to get out of there immediately with your children. I know you rely on him financially but there are countless organizations and public services that can help you depending on what country you are in. Call your mom, tell her everything, then have her come help you pack your things and leave while your fiancé is at work.

If you can’t leave for yourself, you need to leave for your children. Your son seems to already sense that his father doesn’t treat you right and feels he needs to protect you at 7 years old. 7 year olds should not have those worries. Also imagine what your daughter is seeing in this relationship and that is what she is going to think is normal and healthy when she is older. You wouldn’t want her in a relationship like this, so you can’t normalize it.

I truly hope you are able to get out and get help. You sound like an incredible mother and I’m sorry life has handed you this terrible situation. Know your children are a blessing and do what’s best for them (and you). Hang in there, please feel free to pm me if you need more support or just to vent.