Im sexually confused and I want to die

You sound like me @ 16, so I know what its like to constantly have that question mark hovering over your head, its very stressful. But there's really no rush to figure out, try and relax and enjoy the self discovery process. I didn't want to be gay at the time and it took years even after coming out before I was happy with it, but it takes time, experience and if you have good friends and family it can be a great life! Its not all disadvantage

These days I have a good mix of gay and heterosexual friends, I don't have to worry about people thinking i'm gay for doing certain things or dressing a certain way and am more free to express myself how I want unlike a lot of other guys, I can go to gay bars with my friends and have a good time, and really the only way my life would be different if I wasn't gay would be less sex, more rules and more insecurity! I can get married and have kids if I want without the pressure, dating has a lot less rules, sex has more options. It took me many years to get to such a place mind you. It's all about experience and a little education can go a long way (check out my sub /r/lgbtlibrary for that).

You can still be who you want and do what you want, and remember there's no promise a heterosexual life would be easier; ask my brother who's had a terrible time and has been fighting to see his kids for 10 years! No doubt i've had a better time than him

If you are gay or bi or whatever then it won't be easy to get over the disappointment sure, and it will take a while to adjust to a new self image that you didn't expect. But its called "it gets better" for a reason and without a doubt out of all the hills and valleys and stages growing up gay, being 16 and having that question mark above my head stressing me out was the worst! It was all uphill from there and it wasn't smooth sailing and there were many more breakthroughs over the years before I got to a zen place, but you need to have that patience and trust that even though it seems like you'll feel this way forever, you wont. And like me you'll wake up one day and look back at your 16 year old self and realise how much you've changed

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