Nope not as adults. She lived off my dad financially until her almost mid 30's, so she basically rugged swept everything because she liked not having to work. She had 2 kids with an alcoholic abuser. My dad paid for all 4 of them to live in a big house, nice cars, etc. I bet she still does nothing! He's okay with it because in exchange for $$, because he can pretend to be a good guy and people probably believe it!

I, on the other hand, never rug swept anything. I made it clear what was acceptable to me as an adult and set healthy boundaries in order to maintain my sanity. I never took a thing from him after age 16. She sees me as the trouble maker, because I make it troublesome for her to get money I guess! I always say what I think and feel and won't pretend with any of them. That has really freed me and ensured I have zero regrets! :)

I deep dive into animal rescue in my off-work hours to try to fix my internal mess. Animals are helpless and if I can step in and stop an abuser from harming them and find them a forever home, I do for them what should have been done for me as a helpless kid. Every single animal that gets adopted heals me a bit. It took me a long time to string all of that together, but self knowledge is such an eye opener! Thank you for your kindness. This is more than I've ever shared on the internet. :)