I think as unfortunate as it is, the people of the thread also have to understand a lot of people have trauma as well. Yes, I don’t think it’s fair for men like OP to live in fear, but as someone with some childhood trauma from a male educator, it’s stressful for me to hear the level of assumption in peoples stories about how we need to just trust peoples intentions... I know majority of the people in the thread truly have good intentions but men have so much privilege to gaslight victims, physically overpower the more vulnerable, etc. that if I were a mother, it would terrify me. Especially with so many conversation right now about how it’s not fair for men to have to live in fear for being falsely accused of xyz, when so many (men included) who know how horrible a place the world can be and just live in fear of being abused on a daily basis. I swear I’m not trying to sound like a raging “down with the patriarchy” feminist but just wanted to offer another prospective that I felt the thread was lacking.

...Admittedly it doesn’t help that I have major trust issues after being told the educator couldn’t have molested me because “he’s a father and an educator so he must just love kids and you’re being dramatic”even after he ended up being arrested and charged of molesting multiple children. I know not all male educators have bad intentions I’ve had some great ones but it just takes one bad one to give you trauma for life.