I've liked a lot of girls but had never gotten close to any, but one, I would just live with, not forgetting and just accepting that I like a certain person and as soon as another catches my eye, my thoughts suddenly shift onto another. I don't understand what you mean by assumptions, but if you like this person and are closing yourself out, it can lead to regrets like mine. For me getting out of my comfort zone and conveying my feelings really eased my pressure. To me this was unthinkable and at the time out of the question. I like this girl that I've known since the 8th grade, the time I was 210 lbs of ugly meat and she's petite, pretty, her eyes are just amazing, I thought she was way out my league. My cousin introduced her to me and a couple other family present at the time, she would soon turn out to be my cousin's best friend, they're still close to this day. I was the kind of person who'd wear his heart on his sleeve and told everyone, but her, that I liked her. I was stupid for telling my folks since they'd later tease me in front of her making it blatantly obvious that I was crushing on her, to make matters more unbearable, my family went along withe the teasing. Years went on and I blossomed and cut weight to achieve aesthetic gain (I got beefed and lean and became a hunk, don't ask how I know please) I finally felt good enough to take a shot at her, but my heart would sink when I'd hear that she had a new boyfriend. I once visited my cousin and she happened to drop by and was with her man. I was angry at myself for not making a move on her sooner and I somehow knew she also had something for me, but someone can only wait so long. I still see her, ATM she's taken and due to my principles I refuse to hit on girls with boyfriends since I strongly feel it's bad karma but what I did do was let her know my feelings towards her at a party while we danced. I had bottled myself in for too long that I just snapped, I realized that I had nothing to lose by telling her that I was into her and I was certain that if I didn't let her know she'd 100% lose interest in me. Never in my 20 years of living had I ever felt my chest about to split in two, as soon as I did it, a sudden feeling of relief swept over me. For the record I've never had a girlfriend, I'm no womanizer, I'm introverted and timid, I have a strong interest in watching anime and reading manga and with today's stigma one can only imagine how hard it is to show their true colors when they have no game to back it up with (if that makes sense?). Put your foot in the door if you think it's worth it and buy her something nice.