I'm surprised she made it this far

Why is it automatically an incel/redpill thing to want your match to equally contribute to the conversation? OP is the one who gave her an opportunity to talk about something else by asking "what's up?" but she basically responded with the equivalent of "nm u?" Like her previous one-word replies, that's a conversation killer.

I'm not a tinder user, I'm just here from r/all, but it seems like guys are punished/ignored or labeled as boring if they open with normal conversation. IIRC, isn't there an 'unmatch' button that she could use if she was uninterested in OP? By not unmatching, isn't she signaling that she's still interested in getting to know him? Why does the girl get a pass for contributing nothing in the way of accomplishing that? She could have jokingly called OP out for using lame jokes, she could have asked OP questions to get to know him better, anything to show she has a personality really. Conversations require effort from both parties to continue, and if she wasn't interested in putting in that effort, she should unmatch.

It's like you just accept that since dating apps heavily favor women, that excuses them from actually contributing to conversations until they're entertained enough, and think anyone who wants to see genuine interest from the girl is an incel/redpiller.

And I don't think anyone's shifting any blame at all, you can hold both views that OP's jokes are lame and that the girl's responses are lame simultaneously.

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