Im worried my adult sister or her son are being abused by her father

I understand where you're coming from, and if I were looking at it from the outside, I would think I was being absolutely reckless and stupid -- but I can't call DHS at this point.

He watched me change clothes 22 years ago and I have no proof of it. My sister (and brother, who also has said he was sexually abused at times) will never tell the authorities that. Their father's family has a very warped sense of family loyalty. I have read the statistics on sex crimes being prosecuted. People with more recent accusations, with much more physical evidence, get off all the time. I absolutely do not believe anything good will come of me reporting him now, or my sister. I will be isolated from my nephew even further.

My plan is to help her husband win custody when his military service is up next year. I have saved screenshots of conversations with her, he has recorded video of her emotionally abusing and manipulating their son, and I am willing to be a character witness against her where my anecdotal evidence will probably hold much more weight to one judge than to a faceless DHS phone operator who has other people to report to.

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