Based off what, even? Regardless of how it begins, It's a very vicious cycle where you feel horrible and the one thing that beyond effectively helps your deepest darkest demons is the drug you're addicted to, which just doubles it up and cycles on itself. In this case its alcohol. I mean I bet if I was obese I'd be judged harder for then having alcohol problems. At the bottom of every addiction is love. A yearning for a once felt love for ones self. Love for thy family to be thy best self. You can't say he doesn't want help. Anxiety is real. It's not uncommon for people to give in to a lifetime of drinking to cope, albeit haphazard. I say cut the guy some slack! He's clearly solid in his choice to drink- maybe if everyone wasn't compounding stress he'd be managing better? Food for thought. Sending love your way. The one thing I was lied to about was how being an alcoholic is miserable? I can handle my anxiety for once? I don't have panic attacks? Problem is that it's too good. Can you see how it would be hard for him?