It's a pretty uncomfortable atmosphere when your father changes his behaviors towards you always, or gets mad at you for petty things and can go as far as attacking me or my siblings. It's weird when he tries to be nice to you, but you know behind your back he's literally trying to sabotage your entire future. It's strange knowing he's willing to go states away to help complete strangers with their houses, but allows his family to live in a house that is falling apart at the very hinges - as well as it is embarrassing to have guests because of said house, and his behavior around guests. He'd value his mother and sister more than anyone else, even his own kids to the point it was sickening. My dad stuck around for YEARS during the divorce. All of my siblings and myself were diagnosed with situational depression and anxiety, youngest being eight or nine and since he's left we've all improved. People have had it so much worse, but the effects this had on us I would never wish on anyone else.