It's not easy for women because having one night stands with random men is just very scary and not really desirable. We really don't need sex in that kind of way we can enjoy it but a vibrator may be better. Being rejected as a person and only viewed as a sex object causes pretty similar feelings of bitterness and resentment as incels feel. I know this more from my college days than now. I'm not really worried about it all now. i figure I had 20 years of being with my soul mate and maybe that is good enough for one lifetime. I talk to all these men on dating sites and they want some kind of guarantee that they're going to get sex before even meeting me which just makes me not trust them and feel like there's no point in meeting them.