The incident - Apparently wanting to get married is unforgiveable

If you've read my last two posts, you'll know all about my homophobic family and aunt Cersei. So this happened about two years ago, at a party Cersei was throwing. My grandparents live in a little flat that's part of Cersei's house. My mum had recently taken up needle felting and took some of her work to show everyone and gifts she made them.

I went to Cersei's living room, my parents went into the grandparents' place. I'm looking at the food when my mum comes in looking upset and she tells me that she showed her parents something she made and nan said "are you sure your daughter didn't?" I was seriously pissed off but I didn't want to start a fight so we moved on. I stay in the living room, people are sat around drinking and eating, time goes on, pretty much everyone is hammered or hyper from all the sweet food. This is when dancing starts. Then Cersei starts getting close to a kid we'll call Joe. Joe and his sister Charlotte lived down the road from me and next door to Cersei and her kids when we were growing up. Me, my cousins, and Joe and Charlotte all played together. Joe was about fifteen at the time. And Cersei is all over him, in front of his mother, who finds the whole thing funny. I go "fuck it, I'll risk the grandparents". In hindsight, watching Cersei grope a teenage boy might have been preferable. So I go and sit with my grandparents and parents and we just chat and somehow, the topic of same sex marriage comes up.

Oh boy. Then my granddad decides to voice his opinion, marriage is for procreation, it devalues his marriage, and it's just wrong. Aside from just how wrong it is, my parents couldn't have a baby naturally. In order to have children they needed fertility treatments or to adopt. He goes "well when you get married..." I interrupted with "when I get married it will because I love him. Or her." Anyway, granddad keeps repeating the same thing, unable to argue properly and finally tells me to get out because he's sick of me. Ouch. So I went back to Cersei's in tears, got some funny looks, and I think I broke a plastic cup because I was so angry. I went home without saying goodbye.

The next day I didn't get a call to apologise or ask if I was ok. A month or so goes by, I've still not heard anything and my birthday rolls around. My nan usually calls on my birthday, we chat, I thank her for the presents. I got a card and some money but no call. I was too hurt to make the first move, even to say thank you. Nan's birthday rolls round and Mum sends a card, no gift or money. Mum's birthday is next and she gets a card and money and texts to say thank you. No reply. Nothing for Christmas.

We met Cersei and her boys for dinner at pizza hut and swapped gifts. A few months later I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and was very sick. We met with Cersei another time but it was too much hard work and I was too sick to go to college for a week. She has made no effort to meet us. I don't think she even texts my mum anymore. Last year, she asked my mum what I'm so depressed about and my mum replied "Phoenix thinks mum and dad don't love her because she's gay". Then Cersei replied with "they don't care that Phoenix or anyone is gay." which is a lie for one. "She was being very loud and argumentative." So was he. "Mum tried to stay in contact." Again, a lie. "She sent cards and money." Because who needs family who respect your basic human rights when you can have a piece of paper and £20? Anyway, what do you know? You weren't there. You were on the other side of the house, drunk out of your mind and flirting with a boy barely older than your youngest son. I haven't spoken to Cersei since.

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