Well I guess I can see my future options getting smaller lol. Give her some lsd or mushrooms and then get into some talks. Kidding. But really, growing up if I liked a guy and he engaged me into the conversation, I rather enjoyed the talks. For a long time I actually tried so hard to get into theoretical topics, but you are right, I couldn’t hold onto too many ideas and thoughts at once and my brain would break. I had a time of depression because I really wanted to be able to think like that. I even took adderall for awhile, which was prescribed, and it opened me up to new ideas and deep talks. I could then think more critically. I actually got mistyped for an ENFP, which I’m not sure but I think it made me think alittle deeper. It just wouldn’t last though and eventually my brain kind of reminded me of the pattern of using to much energy on a subject that doesn’t naturally grab me. I can get into deep talks though about things if they are relevant to my situation and I’ve warmed up my brain. It would be at this point that if my significant other needed it, I would stretch my imagination. It’s fun if I’m able to. I just can’t retain it as well as I would like for future conversations. I couldn’t give great opinions like he probably wanted, but I could understand.

It sucks because I see a whole bunch of hate for esfj’s and it’s caused me to become insecure because I agree with a lot of what they are saying at least for me. At the same time though, no one actually has any real solutions to the problem in that area for. I have tried many different approaches.

But anyways, like any relationships, it may just not work out without there being a balance for both of you like someone else mentioned. Her working just as hard as you. If it’s that much effort, then I agree it should not continue. But don’t make her feel insecure about why, which you probably already know, because that will just make it harder for her in future relationships. Also make sure she has someone to go to that she can have some emotional support and is also level headed. I hope you guys can get through it, but if not, then I hope you guys can learn something valuable from it to further your lives.