This was my life for 10 years with my husband. He blamed me for his failures, if he didn’t have friends it was my fault, he didn’t work that was apparently also my fault because I had to keep moving to keep a job for the both of us, we didn’t have a kid that too was my fault because I wasn’t sure where we were headed, his cheating was also my fault. He would get angry at me for small things, yell at me for nothing , he treated me like nuisance. I have a high sex drive and he denied me sex but had no problems cheating with much younger girls,adding to my insecurities. When I talked about separation he’d threaten to shoot himself everytime I decided to bring it up. This is emotional abuse and took me 10 years to figure out, wasted the prime of my life in a loveless marriage. There were some redeeming qualities about him but I realized I need a man who I can love with a passion and who loves me back the same way and treats me kind. Please don’t waste your time and leave .