Intrusive MIL

Yes she got used to it, she didn't like it. And we usually had to somehow see mil except for Thanksgiving that one we got totally off the hook pretty much. We would just stop in and see her for an hour or so and then go on our merry way cuz their house was on their way to my parents house. We would literally past their house on the way.

How we handled Christmas was if we were seeing my mom/dad on Christmas Day but we would do is stop in and see mil/fil on Christmas Eve, spend some of the day of Christmas Eve with them til about 3pm then continue our drive to my parents cuz they lived 2 hours farther away. Then when we saw my in-laws for Christmas we would go up and spend Christmas day with them (or they would come here) then that evening leave and drive to my parents after that and we "do" Christmas the day after or a few days later. sometimes we would go home from being with in-laws all day and then go to my parents a couple days later and spend two or three days with my parents. MIL hated that too because we were spending more time with my parents then but didn't have much of a choice. We wouldn't spend the night at my in-laws cuz it was just awful we tried it 2x on other occasions and it sucked. My MIL hated the fact that I had Parents. She probably did a real happy dance with my mom died because my dad remarried and his new wife insisted on all holidays be with her family so after that I never got to see my dad except several days after a holiday so that's when we started saying we're not coming to Christmas and Thanksgiving to my inlaws every other year still she thought she was going to win the lottery and we would come every year, nope. So basically told them they had to come to us after that if they wanted to see us, well they would not want to see us, they wanted to see the kids. we weren't that silly to think they actually want to see us. We would actually go some holidays without seeing them which was fantastic from our point of view as they got older. Only my mil is left now, and I'm very curious what we're going to do this year because she's in assisted living and no longer has a house cuz it's been sold. We have not discussed it yet. I don't think she's up for a 3-hour car ride to us. So I guess we'll be having it in her apartment which I'm not looking forward to. I know we'll be expected for both holidays this year. she's 89 so she'll pull the I might not be here next year card which of course is quite possibly true, though I think she's going to live to 100, lol.

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