I'm an Infj and I'm friends with an isfp. It is emotionally draining. I require alot of assurance in my relationships and he cant give me that. He is aloof and he does his own thing alot and that makes me feel unwanted and it really hurts. I initiate contact 95% of the time and it feels one sided. I think he also gets bored easily and has lost interest in me in favor of a new person. I dont think I have the emotional strength to be his friend. I need validation and security and the deprivation of those needs hurts too badly. I think for my emotional health I need to just set him free and wish him the best. I'm not a cactus, I'm a bonsai, I require extra care.