Ive (29m) been training for over a year to PR in a 10k this weekend (want to break 37 minutes) my wife (29f) of 6 years just decided we "should walk it together" and is pouting when I said absolutely not.

I will just offer a different perspective here.

I think the marriage has been over for a while. And I think that you will find the validation you're looking for on Reddit.

You are a man on Reddit who was once overweight and got healthy. Automatically, that makes you a Reddit hero to the demographic.

Your wife is a woman (Reddit strike one), who is overweight, tried to get healthy, and wasn't able to maintain it (strikes two and three). She is already reddit's worst enemy, possibly a step or two below Hitler. You can see it in the comments - veiled, but there. All this is to say that if you are looking for validation on how great you are and how terrible your wife is, you have come to the right place. Reddit will be happy to validate those feelings for you.

I would be curious to hear your wife's perspective. I would be curious to hear about a marriage where one person is out running all the time, and the other person is alone. I wonder how much support you gave your wife while she was struggling with her weight. You said your wife accused you of cheating, but you didn't say you didn't do it.

Your wife's Olive Branch was a crappy Olive Branch. Her excuses not to take care of her health are of course just excuses. I can absolutely understand your frustration. And if you're not attracted to your wife, that's not something you can necessarily help, although I wonder why it took you this long to be unattracted to a person that you were initially attracted to while she was overweight.

I don't think that you want to get separated because of your wife's so-called Olive Branch. I think you want to get separated because you really don't care very much about your wife, and you would like a new life. And for those reasons, I think you need to separate. You don't love your wife, and it's not fair to her to continue to be with her when it's clear you hold her in contempt and scorn. If you can't respect the person you're with, what does that say about you?

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