I've [37M] been divorced for 6 months, separated for a year from my ex wife [43F]. She left me for another man and I just got this email on our first wedding anniversary apart. It's confusing and I need feedback on it.

I'm glad someone can see it my way.

I mean we don't know enough of the story here.

He went to jail for who knows how long and she waited and once he got out he changed but what did they do to try and work on things.

What made him change and in what ways.

What pushed them to separate.

How hard did he try to work on their marriage and was she also communicating her feelings.

Was their pride what pushed them to divorce.

I can only fill in the blanks and I can only assume from what I read and try to see both their sides.

But how everyone is just making it sound like she was just some crazy ex that isn't getting enough attention and just wants to play with his feelings isn't fair.

I mean they did love each other at some point and vowed better and worse until they die. So just saying she is some desperate drama queen isn't fair.

Divorces are devastating especially divorces that happen because of people's pride getting in the way. Because those could possibly be worked on and fixed.

But who knows the true story and what they went through.

I still will feel bad for a couple who lost a love that was once a happy gleam in their eyes and exciting future.

I'm sure she does still hurt but if he has moved on he should just keep going.

It will get easier for both of them everyday I'm sure.

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