I've avoided dating because of how badly I want to stay stealth but I want to start

It's not about whether they understand non-disclosure or not and the importance of it, not at all. It's about someone a person has trusted withheld a fundamental piece of their identity. No matter how crucial that can change a person's ability to trust in someone.

And good for you not trusting a specialist therapist who did their practicum treating trans patients at a top 10 psychiatric facility, their dissertation in a related topic, and has a PhD, just because of the parts they were born with. That's just ridiculous and seems like an amazing way to limit yourself from seeing the best professionals possible. (In fact, it's kind of the definition of discrimination, which you'd think us of all people wouldn't do, but okay do you.)

It's like saying you can't trust the opinions of women to counsel men because they're never lived as men. Or men & women in the inverse. Or that straight people can't counsel gay people. Wildly inappropriate.

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