I've been increasingly noticing a large number of women (online and real world) who express that they don't want to have children. Women who don't want to be mothers, why is that?

A lot of you guys are saying that simply you never wanted children because you didn't have the "maternal instinct" and children is not appealing to, or has a negative evaluation from a cost-benefit prespective. I get you guys.

The way I'm thinking about it is that the will to have children is one of the too, it's either purely and acquired through socializing, or involve some emtional biological hard wiring.

If it's purely acquired then it is all resolved, women didn't have options in the past, and today birth control solves the issue, and women can choose not to have children, and some do.

I don't want to be misunderstood (specially I'm a guy talking to women) of course i understand that you don't want children, and by all mean it is a choice to be respected just like wanting to have a child, i just can't put it into the sociobiological perspective. If it involves hard wired circuits -which makes more sense from an evolutionary perspective- I can't understand how this high amount of women doesn't have the will to have children. I mean it is possible that in the past this high amount of women didn't want children but took it for granted as they had no other option? This would imply that many many children in the past were unwanted by their mothers', but at the same time child-mother bond is greatly advantageous in the evolutionary game and it is hard wired in almost all mammals and primates.

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