I agree with this. This is a taboo relationship inside the culture of the US, period. Regardless of what religion or group of people it is. It's not a reflection the ward, the church, or anything like that, it's a reflection of people in general. Pinning it on the ward and bringing the church into it will only hurt your relationship with the church, when you will likely be experiencing the exact same thing with people outside of the church. If you picked up and went to and a different church I don't think you would have a wildly different experience.

Yes, the comments about eternal marriage is specific to the church. But if you just take the eternal marriage part out, anyone could have a concern/judgement about that.

If this is the right decision for you both, you'll have to brace yourselves. Because I believe you'd deal with this reaction in any church.