I've had a lot of sex partners and am worrying I'll be judged.... [sexual history]

The answer is unfortunately a yes. There will be guys who will judge you for that.

Me (21 y/o) personally, my girlfriend's (22 y/o) number makes me very uncomfortable and causes me alot of anxiety. I had some shitty stuff happen when I was a kid and it kind of broke my self confidence in talking to girls. I had only one previous sexual encounter that was under normal circumstances which was a few months before I met my current girlfriend, and that encounter was horrible and the girl made me feel really uncomfortable. My girlfriend's number gives me feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, jealousy, and overall anxiety. I get images in my head of her past sexual encounters and I can't get rid of them. It's a really horrible cocktail of emotions that can be a burden to deal with.

I know she did nothing wrong, and I don't ever blame her or shame her for it. And honestly, it has been getting better over time with some effort. But regardless, there are raw emotions that are still there, as much as I wish every day that there weren't.

That's just my personal experience. There is definetly alot of guys that are very sex positive! Just think of your sexual history as another trait that makes you more or less compatible with certain partners. I mean, despite this issue me and my girlfriend have a great relationship which we are both invested in. Just be wary of people that have those emotions and communicate them in a negative way (like shaming, name calling, abusive behavior etc...).

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