I was the oldest and the GC of a ethnic mostly Nfamily that puts a lot of stock in family ties and responsibilities. It may appear to be easier and better than the SG and in some aspects it is on the surface, but it comes with it's own issues and problems. A lot of responsibilities and pressure gets dumped on the GC, as well as other fucked up problems. For instance I was my Nmom's surrogate husband since my Edad was gone most of the time from a young age (it didnt help that we were homeschooled for the first half of our education). I was her support and replacement in every aspect of her life that a spouse would fill with the exception of the act of sex. For this reason I cannot watch Bates Hotel, I've only seen a few clips from an episode here and there and it's like watching my childhood of how she treats him. I ended up becoming the parent in many situations and grew up very very fast. You end up becoming an extension of the Narc, who project all their wishes, expectations, and desires upon, and you must meet or exceed them, failure is not an option. If you fail then they let you know and make you feel like you caused them to fail, and if you succeed then they take all the credit and praise since they raised and taught you everything. You really aren't a person, just another limb for them to control. If I was as strong willed as I am today I would have been a SG Im sure of it, as my sister once told me "We were all inmates in an insane asylum trying to survive." Because of how I grew up I've had a plethora of issues to overcome when I finally told them to fuck off and went NC. You end up having issues in trust, intimacy, confidence, and other aspects of your life. GC and SG are two sides of the same coin, they look different, but under it all they are both victims of abuse.