Jealousy/Possessiveness/Claiming in Relationships? [Penny for your Thoughts] [I wanna know ALL your perspectives!] [Community Discussion]

I would never be into a threesome, I’m way too interested in an intimate connection with one person to ever want a third person involved. I don’t even like hearing about exes, nevermind someone you’re currently fucking, even if I’m in the room too.

The only real sense of jealousy I’ve experienced is in relationships where the other party is somehow emotionally distant from me, whether it’s because that’s just the way he is, or because he doesn’t feel for me what I feel for him. If I feel there’s a marked imbalance - that I am way more into him than he is into me* - then it makes me feel very unsettled, and I feel my jealousy rising at slight provocation.

I don’t want to control anyone, but I do worry that he’s going to blossom under the glow of someone else, that it’ll be someone else who thaws him out and makes him fall in love. Someone who could do what I couldn’t. And I guess it’s the futility of that grim thought, the knowledge that there’s nothing you can do about how someone else feels about you, that makes me insecure.

Maybe I’m just drawn to emotional brick walls who don’t love me, who knows. Seems to be my plight.

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