Jealousy in relationships?

I have the typical girl jealousy thing, you know comparing myself to other girls. I like to think I'm productive about it, you know like respect that person for what she has going on, maybe think about how I could make it work for myself? Problem is when I'm jealous of someone I don't like, makes me hate them so much sorry I'm human.

Relationships, not hugely. I am certainly a bit territorial like every other person in a relationship I wouldn't want anyone trying to steal my man. That being said, I never worry about him straying, we've been together a while and he's a hardcore monogamist. I'd call this one personal insecurity.

I was kind of raised by, how do I put this... a regular girl to be a regular girl. 'Be pretty' (and charming) was my biggest lesson from my mom growing up, so I am dealing with that a lot now that I'm trying to be myself instead of a typical bitchy girl who just compares herself to other girls and gossips and all that stuff. That was never me, it makes me miserable.

I wonder what my life would be like if I had been raised to be myself instead of just attractive.

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