Judge blasts warring parents ( Especially the mother) who squandered $500,000 on custody battle. He awards full custody to the father.

Apparently reading comprehension isn't your strong suit.

Yes, I feel that the ~$30,000 spent on legal fees was outrageous and unwarranted, that the matter should have been easily resolved by two stable adults with skin in the game.

But it takes two reasonable people to resolve a dispute or disagreement between them, or perhaps even a third party to offer more objectivity.

Either of those options I was demonstrably willing to undertake, but she would hear nothing of it.

While I take my full responsibility for my part of our marriage's failure, I can only take my own: I cannot nor am I willing to take another person's responsibility on my shoulders.

All of that being said, she paid more than five times the amount that I paid between legal fees and repayment to me.

Five times more than I paid, when I was willing from before ANY action was undertaken to resolve it out of court.

I wanted that money to go toward our son, not toward lawyers.

I was willing, ready and able to see it resolved; she was not.

I'm not merely unhappy with my legal bill; I'm unhappy for her loss, too. All of it should have and could have gone to him.

As for your charge of people in these situations being completely irrational, I agree that the situation and the system of resolution can make people do surprising and uncharacteristic things.

But please don't pretend you know how everyone acts as though you've seen it all and can predict without fail their actions.

You failed in this case, right out of the gate.

Our decision to pursue a reversal of the onerous amount awarded was considerate and calculated: we did the math.

We already knew (or at least had a very good idea) that the system wasn't there to ensure fairness.

We also knew we might not get a favorable finding.

Quite simply, we assessed the risks and decided the gain was worth the potential loss, and pursued the appeal.

And "won."

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