I would rather be surrounded with people who are fighting the life's problems instead of escaping from them. I was 18, lived with my narcissistic dad, saved up money in the background, escaped while he was at work, got my own place, am doing better than ever.
I could have also said oh fuck me life is so hard let me smoke and drink to forget. But I fought instead, and that's the type of people I want around me.

Only difference is the approach to the problems. One of my favorite rappers had to sell cocaine when he was 13 years old to support his mother because his older brother died, he could have also become a bum like many homeless on the streets. (80% of homeless are men, and around 60% of homeless people are there because of mental illness, so not all of them are lazy bums, but many are.)