Just alloromantic ace things

Just answering the last part, I couldn't stay friends with my ex because knowing that we wanted different things out of our relationship, as well as the thought of seeing her with someone else simply hurt too much. I still really like her personality (at least the personality she displayed when we were still in touch) but even if it might not hurt that much anymore, I don't want either of us to get in the way of the other person's future romantic relationships.

But the pain could partly be an ego thing, so I can imagine that since you broke up because of your partner's mental health, not because their feelings for you changed, maybe it hurt your ego less. Breaking up because one person's feelings changed is like hearing "Well, I loved the person I thought you would be, but now that I know you better you're kinda yieks dude." Even if they want to stay friends and make it clear that they still like you as a person. It feels pretty shitty.

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