Sure you can fell upset about your problems. Grief it, feel it, embrace it. Where this line of thinking comes from, however is to basically saying "next time something like this happens, you'll know how to fix it." If you enocounter this problem for the first time yes, it seems impossible. You go through the pain and push through the issue and try to fix it. If it comes acorss again and you still don't know how to fix it, only then does it become a YOU problem. You did not take the initiative to fix your own problem. Did you expect the world to solve it for you the first time? Hell nah. Improve from it. Learn from it. And get back on your damn feet. Life does not work for you or anybody in this world. Life will beat you sensless with that kind of attitude. Focus to improving youself instead of trying to control the world around you. You can only control your actions, not others. Trying to control others is a complete waste of our time and energy. So feel free to ignore my warning if you want, but if nothing changes you can only look back on yourself. Unless you want to point fingers like what we did back in elementary school, sure go back to that mentality.