Just discovered my parents are swingers, and my little sister is mortified. has anyone had that conversation yet?

We've always had an open-door policy with our kids. No, not literally!!!

Seriously, our son (now almost 18) learned that we weren't a normal vanilla couple when he was 12. He took it well, because he was pretty mature for his age and the fact that we always taught him that sexuality was not a man-woman thing and that sexuality was meant to be enjoyed and shared with these you trusted.

Our daughter, almost 11 - was a bit different. About a year ago, she threatened my wife that "if she ever went out and cheated on Daddy, she would go live with Daddy if you guys ever separated."

That was distressing to the both of us. That night, I had a talk with my daughter about how marriage does not define ownership. I told her bluntly, that I don't own my wife nor does she own me. We're deeply in love with each other, but we enjoy tasting other people every now and then. Nothing's wrong with tasting different foods while always staying loyal to your favorite food, without fail.

Then I told her matter of factly: Mom enjoys having fun with other men, and I don't mind. I know she always loves me, and she loves me a lot too. I like to go out and have my own fun with other women, same thing. The most important thing is... we NEVER lie to each other about what we do.

She took time to digest that. She's intellectually bright, but not as mature as our son though. Fast forward to today, she's okay with it - but we don't openly talk about our lifestyle with each other in front of her. She knows and is okay with it - she asks us questions about this and that, and we answer them to a certain degree.

I think it's best to wean them into the understanding of different human relationship dynamics, to undo the damage that society's views have tried to do to their view of such. We discuss people of LGBT, BDSM, swinging, etc... so they would grow to appreciate that no one is this perfect picture of puritanism.

To embrace that antiquated perspective is disgusting, and passe. To avoid discussing these "forbidden topics" openly with your children, on their age level... is just asking for trouble. Why else would children reared in stoic religious homes be more at risk for experimenting with dangerous behavior?

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