I just don't know what to do anymore and need some advice or stories of people in similar situations.

hi :) this sounds similar to what happened between my husband and I, in terms of the root cause of his cheating, only he felt I was unattracted to him and such.

this wasn't the case, as I had undiagnosed postpartum depression. it was that I didn't want to have sex with him, and it never was a completely dead bedroom, but I had no sex drive. between my job and the baby, and taking care of things around the house - I had no energy for him.

there were other things as well, it's not completely the same... but I do think maybe a discussion about pps is in order, seeing as how you just had a baby.

it's not easy to admit that this may be what's going on, and I can totally see how she can misconstrue no sex drive as "not being attracted" anymore.

my stbx asked me only once if he thought this was going on. I thought I was just stressed from work and lack of help from him... he never mentioned it after and just started cheating on me instead.

please talk to her about this, if you haven't already. make a Dr. appointment if you have to. Even if she doesn't go, at least she can't say you didn't try.

a friend of mines husband had to basically force her to go, and this is what it turned out to be. I suffered in silence for 4 years.

at the very least maybe couples counseling, or individual counseling for yourself or her might help as well.

I'm sorry your dealing with this. I wish you the best of luck!

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