I just ended a friendship with a good friend of mine because I got to know he was a raging sexist.

I’m going to voice an extremely unpopular opinion here: I think a sudden interest in extreme views like the ones Tate espouses, by someone you know pretty well and usually know to be a reasonable person, should be read as a cry for help. Especially given that the first statistic he rattled off is related to suicide and depression.

I think Tate is the type of weak-jawed, narrow-shouldered weirdo who creates a tough guy persona because he’s too soft to be a Marine or a SEAL or something actual tough guy, but THAT SAID - I can still see where a young and impressionable guy who is terribly lonely and depressed would latch onto his ideology. Especially if he doesn’t have any older men in his life who he respects.

It’s not really your job to “save” anybody, but if he’s truly a close friend it might be worth it to consider what he’s upset about and try to open up a discussion about it. The thing about pain is that everybody carries it and no one wants to hear that their pain isn’t as “real” as someone else’s.

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