so, the failure with most of the approaches on this sub is the belief that you'll miraculously undo years of addiction in a single decision so overtime you get o day 5 you get no closure to mental or emotional freedom...you’ve merely reached a material goal of sorts. when in fact the goal should be overall wellness. masturbating is healthy--not porn. the problem with this sub is that people feel like they're a failure when they do something that really is impossible without intentionality and realistic goals. I haven't watched porn in 15 days I’ve fapped here and there though. and on day 9 my ED was cured, and my boners have never been so hard. I haven't been this healthy since I was in middle school and I’m in my 20's now. you have to learn what recovery looks like for you or you will keep getting let down by this sub. notice how many "fuck I fucked up I’m a failure posts" are here every fucking day. it’s because none of you really chose a model of recovery the suits your personal needs for healing--you’ve merely adopted some weird stop jerking off model and yet you still end up feeling just as broken as you were before you started your journey.