Just found out my mom is being deployed to the middle east. Do any of you currently have loved ones serving in the military?

Not currently, but my brother served two tours in Iraq, including during invasion.

During those early days in the Iraq war, when my brother was there, I developed a full blown addiction to the news. I read every newspaper, every online source I could find, and listened to news radio constantly, including when I slept. Every time an attack on US troops was announced, I pulled out my map that i used to best estimate my brother's location. If it was close, I basically stared at my phone, waiting for bad news. It took over my life.

During his second tour, I was even more paranoid because his job was more dangerous than his previous tour. After the first twelve months, I decided I really needed to cool it with the war news obsession. I successfully scaled down my news consumption and tried to distract myself with other things.

Two months before he was scheduled to return home, I went on a long backpacking trip. When I was driving back to civilization, my phone blew up as soon as I had reception. Every member of my family had left voicemails and texts "call as soon as you can" and "emergency! Call us!". I called my cousin and immediately was asking about my brother, asking if he was dead. My cousin just kept saying "call your dad". When I called my dad, he told me my brother's vehicle was exploded by an IED, that he was being flown to Germany and that he'd likely lose his arm. I actually felt relieved. I knew he was not going back to Iraq, and a brother with one arm beats no brother at all by a long shot. He's recovered well.

I guess my point is that I understand the anxiety and helplessness that goes along with having a loved one deployed. I'll be sending you and your mother loving positive vibes. Hang in there.

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