Just got the green light and now I don’t even know what to do

Normal dating rules apply. If you decide to use online r4r or apps, just mention in your profile that you’re married and if you’re looking for a long term relationship or casual sex.

Beyond that, you can also read up on the different types of non-monogamy. It is good general knowledge to have. Ex. If you’re interested in another committed, romantic partner that you want to have overnights with, share vacations and some holidays with, you should lurk on the poly subs and read up on what some common dealbreakers for people advertising themselves as “poly” are. Because they’re going to expect you to be looking for love most often.

If you’re looking for something not that serious, and want to have your marriage remain as the most important relationship and your other partner as lesser in importance you will be looking for other open-marriage and generally “ENM” people. Ish.

If you live near large or mid-sized cities you will have an active ENM/poly social scene. You can find it on Instagram, FetLife, or even Facebook. There will be meet and greets, parties, hosted event nights and the like. Not sex parties or hookup parties. Social events with like minded people to get to know.

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