Just listen so you can vent is a terrible thing to demand from someone

Again I agree with your points and our views do not oppose one another.

Yes everyone has different needs. A narcissist needs undivided attention and does not need opposing thoughts to challenge their viewpoints. Their needs are not justified. And its sickening that they use the veil of mental health to excuse their behavior. And then they gaslight you, saying you are a bad friend for responding to their rant im a manner in which the narcissist does not desire.

Yes everything is a spectrum and nothin is black and white. But I'm speaking of ranting and venting, like things that annoyed you at work and the unfairness of everyday life. I'm not speaking of the end of a relationship or other major life crises. In the later scenario unconditional support is a true sign of love and friendship. And this is when its appropriate to shut up and listen, not when your friend/SO is ranting about how much their job sucks day in and day out. And then they get mad at you for giving advice. Then they say a good friend just listens to their ranting and make you feel bad for offering advice.

We have normalized bad behavior and the bad apples are running with it. A person who gets mad at you when respond to their ranting with your opinion is a bad apple, especially if they don't apologize after.

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