FYI. I am also in Michigan near Royal Oak (I'll be deleting this comment tonight as it's very personal but I wanted to share)

My husband is recovering alcoholic who doesn't want to drink, but despite therapy since 2017 he keeps destroying our lives and relapses maybe 3 times a year with disastrous consequences.

I believe I was under the delusional impression that "my participation" in his life is the only thing keeping him sober and my kids sade.

However... he recently fell off again and did the same terrible thing he did in 2017 again. The existence of ME doesn't change anything, I am not stopping the things I am scared of.

I honestly thought I HAD to stay. It did nothing. I'm leaving.