I have had the same problem for years. In my case my trauma is from a terrorist attack. I relate best with veterans but I'm not a vet.

I don't really like group therapy. My experiences have been more bad than good. Everyone wants to know the details and (I think) because I am not a veteran they think it's ok to ask me in detail. They just want to know what it was like and tbh I don't think most people can't handle what it was really like. It can feel like a TED talks.

Women's groups are like a morbid game of duck, duck, goose. A high majority of the women there have been assaulted or abused. So when it's my turn to share I feel bad that I'm breaking everyone's connection. I also cannot relate at all.

A few years after the attack other people who were there started their own groups. These were the worst imo. It was like reliving the event over and over again. I would feel guilty for any progress I made because some people were/are really struggling.

It's tough but one on one therapy helps.