I just need a breather...

Until your husband can get his loser family out of your lives do not procreate with this guy. Maybe not ever because he sounds like he comes from bad stock, in the genes kind. If you have a kid with him you will tether yourself forever to this shitshow of a family.

The kid was not your problem.

Years ago my sister got pregnant with her third child, father unknown, and asked me to adopt or she would abort. The decision I made still bothers me that I could have saved a life but I said no.

And then she asked me to babysit her other two kids while she got the abortion, to which request I said no.

Don't feel guilty for not taking on an obligation which wasn't yours to begin with.

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