I dated a girl for about 6 months, met up with an old highschool friend during this, and eventually was cheated on by the first girl. It was a rebound that I shouldn't have taken, but the old friend and I started dating almost immediately. Ultimately, I told her something along the lines of "I shouldn't have rushed into something like this so soon, I need to work on myself and come to terms with what's happened." Well...

This old friend was such because she was a longtime friend of my cousin's, and due to issues at home, I moved in with them also almost immediately. I was very trusting, partially due to the fact that we were dating, and she eventually found the first girl's pictures on my laptop, in my trash; because I had forgotten to completely delete it all. She sent this girl's nudes to her family, friends, the girl herself. She made fake accounts to harass both of us, and throughout all of this I had no idea that the first girl was also being attacked because she had cut off all contact. Once I found out that it was a lot farther than me being insulted and attacked, I contacted the police.

I can't describe how it feels to tell the police about how this woman is being harassed, and being told "Well this should be easy; how do we take her statement?". I could not get in contact with her. She ignored or blocked me on every form of communication. Eventually the police started accusing me of lying, "Why is it so hard to get ahold of her? Why does all the information we have from you to contact her not work?". I had to pay legal fines for getting a restraining order against the first girl, and I had to pursue a charge in court (Theft, she stole the laptop she got the pictures off of) before I was finally able to corner her and say "I'll drop everything if this ends today".

It was embarrassing and expensive, and there were so many times where I wanted to say "Fuck these women, why am I defending a cowardly cheater who won't help me help her?". But, I know that bitterness and anger only hurt ourselves, and as bad as she was to me; the only way to move on was to let it go and not let it change how I am. Secondly, I own my responsibility in the situation; It was my fault the second girl got the pictures, so I'd take care of it.