It ruined mine completely with my SS. My SO made a unanimous decision to leave his kid with me while he volunteered to deploy last August. I said I wasn't comfortable with it but he did it, said this is what I signed up for. Nope, because when he joined the national guard reserve prior to meeting me he did not have his kid full time. When he decided to have his son live with him full time, maybe he should have also known what that was signing up for, being a full time parent for the first time in his life. He expected to just go whenever he wanted, wherever he wanted (like he was entitled because his kid was a pre-teen and he "lost his youth"). It isn't his main source of income, he has a regular job.

Him putting ME in charge as SS full time caregiver for originally one month turned to two, instead of his BM, DESTROYED any real relationship SS and I had. It's sad. I would tell SO all the time that SS was lying to me, taking advantage, not the sweet kid he is to SO, didn't listen, etc. SO would talk to SS but it went no where. SS did not take responsibility for his actions and SO did not take it seriously. Well, jokes on them because I will not help and if I do it's the bare minimum when it comes to SS. They put me through hell. I find it hard, even months later, to forgive either of them. Me trying to discipline him was the downfall, SO said I should have been fine with it. So annoying.

I dont think I should have been put in that position, I told SO this, but whatever. He just asked again if he could go and I said it's not happening or SS can stay with his mom. But SO doesn't want her to have any leverage over him. So silly. So SO isn't going.