We're really not that different bro. I was in pretty much the same spot at your age - no "real" dates in my life, sexually frustrated, addicted to porn, and a major pothead/alcoholic.

I've been told I'm above average looking by girls but that certainly didn't matter for a long time. The main thing that gets me girls now is my attitude. I'm always positive, always having fun, and I don't treat them like delicate flowers - if anything I'm a bit of a dick but that's just my sense of humor.

My workout routine isn't anything special. I do a modified version of Frankoman's Dumbell Split and I do 3 workouts a week that take around an hour each. I added ab workouts in every day - cable crunches and hanging leg raises on day A for the rectus abdominus (6 pack) and cable wood chop and dumbell side crunches on day B for my obliques. Sometimes I'll workout 3 times in a week, sometimes more, but I'm not huge by any means. And I'm not ripped.